me you and white supremacy ( the disfunction of the black male female relationship )

Over the last few months, I’ve been on a personal crusade of sorts. I recognize that by now most of you are tired of hearing my Facebook rants about the effects of white supremacy. I see the shift. Mike Brown, and the Ferguson aftermath of his shooting was my last straw. I’ve always been a conscious brother, but I’ve also always been conscious of the fact that most black people, specifically black people in my peer group rarely wants to have any honest discourse about race. Talking to Black folks under 50 about Race and racism is equivalent to talking to Old white men from Mississippi. Black people under 50 pretty much view race like this; Slavery happened, black folk got free then Rosa Parks wouldn’t move out of her seat and Martin came in and fixed shit.

We accept the narrative.

I’m not sure if this is an indictment of our parents, I’m not sure if this is a reaction to the crack generation of the 80’s but somewhere along the lines we lost a connection to “OUR” history, And now we seemingly just don’t give a shit. Well, that is until a teenager is shot down in the middle of the street. In that case we’ve got umm lets say a month to fix this race problem but after that shiiiiiiiitttt I got things to do! Quick; somebody punch his or her fiancé!

This lack of interest, or gap in communication gets nulled over while other lesser issues become the order of the day. Issue that are wrapped perfectly to be consumed by the least of us! From my viewpoint even those lesser issues are direct reflections of the impacts of white supremacy! We’ll attack hip hop, we’ll attack black leadership, we’ll attack black women, we’ll attack black men we’ll attack media etc… but we never once pound on our chest and attack the institution that supports and in most cases embraces the environments that create all those other behaviors. Dogs rarely ever bite their masters!

All of this brought me to this question: How do I get Black people, specifically those in my peer group to acknowledge the supremacy issue? How do I get Black 3o something’s and below to engage in a discourse around the effects of supremacy and begin a dialogue that will essentially conjure solutions? Then it hit me! The shit was so clear that it damn near scared me. BOOM! Address supremacy and its effects in the context of the male female relationship. I mean lets face it, after our mommas the only other things we really value in this life are money, and sex. Statistically we aint got no money, and judging from the amount of “he/She” conflicts on social media yall aint mastered that sex thing either.

Ladies put on your big girl panties; fellas grab your sacks it’s grown up nation building time! I’m putting the medicine in the candy but either way yo ass is gonna eat it!

Lets start with the fellas! In solidarity with the feminist sisters I’m abandoning that ladies first bullshit.

So…. You’re a player right? You got hoes right? Nah my bad you’ve got bitches !!!! NOPE what you have is an inferiority complex, a complex created and hand delivered to you by Mr. Charlie himself. This one is 100% attributed to the children of Hip Hop. We went from righteousness of the 60’s to ratchetness of umm let’s say the mid 90’s. In 30 years we transitioned from sisters and brothers to niggas and bitches. This isn’t by chance! This is by design. The Propaganda machine, feeds you these messages on a 24hr loop, all day everyday. Regardless of your upbringing, regardless of your educational level, regardless of how you truly feel about women, what the puppet masters know; is that regardless of all those other variables the human brain responds mostly to repetition. If you hear a repetitive loop of “All women aint shit “ or “ Fuck these hoes “ continuously eventually you will accept this as a philosophy. Within no time flat you will begin to unconsciously respond to the women in your life as video props for your latest club banger. Them hoes and bitches will hold little to no value.

You compound this lack of value with the fact that most of us are operating from a place of deprivation from the beginning and what you have is exactly what we see in the streets today. A recipe for destruction! Abusive males, who physically and verbally abuse their female companions. This plays out in so many instances but its core is powerlessness. A man needs to feel powerful a man needs to feel valuable, a man needs to be needed. If your woman is one of those “bitches that aint shit” what’s that make you?

It’s your lack of power, it’s your fear of being shut out of opportunity, it’s your realization that even at your best supremacist hierarchies still look at you as a NIGGA! It’s those variables that dictate how you view your woman, because it’s those variables that dictate how you view yourself.

Now don’t’ misinterpret my words, don’t confuse the situation just because I know you’re being programmed doesn’t mean I am willing to excuse ignorant behaviors. You have a responsibility here! You have a responsibility to reprogram, and reboot your own brain. You are responsible for you! Victimhood is not a good look homie!

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Now listen, I know there are plenty other issues regarding the Black male female dynamic but it’s late damn it! !!!

Hey ladies! Of course I didn’t forget yall. “Eat the cake Annie Mae, Eat the cake”

Sisters love to hit you with the “these niggas aint shit “ all men cheat, etc…. etc… etc… Who am I to belittle your experience, right? You’re only responding to what you’ve been through, right? Yo daddy wasn’t around right? If he was around he wasn’t shit right? To all of that I say…….. wait for it …… SO!!!! Just like the fellas you have a responsibility for, and in the success of all your own interpersonal relationships. Historically you have been viewed as the glue of the community. I tend to disagree with that. I think historically you have been used as the greatest pawn to ever grace a chessboard. Through you, white supremacy dictates and disrupts every move to obtain power that a Black man has ever attempted.

Without a deep history lesson in captivity you were used in several ways, but all of those tactics were centered on keeping your man powerless. The plan hasn’t diverted much, but your understanding of the plan surely has. Today by and large you are the breadwinners, you are the elevated of Black people, you are the hope of a nation, but rather than letting that light shine you embrace visions of yourself that demean your vibrancy. You admire Beyonce, you admire Olivia Pope, and depending where you are in your personal maturation you admire Nikki Ménage . This isn’t a knock at those people, this is a knock at your need to follow and admire the characters that those people created. In all of those examples what you admire is surface, and material. You replicate those behaviors in your personal lives trying to find happy in an outfit, a pair of Louboutins or that wet and wavy weave you’ve been wearing. This is a tool, your desire to to buy happiness or sell your self to the highest bidder is a ploy.

Your elevated status isn’t by chance either, it is supremacy 101 its make the woman powerful (but not so powerful as to take over a nation) but just enough to keep her man in his place. This disrupts that natural flow of the divine plan.

Lets put this in perspective. Supremacist society says you’re never going to find a husband! Supremacist society says, the higher up the corporate ladder you go the less likely you are to find a companion that’s suitable. Supremacist society states that if you aren’t progressive that in order to obtain governmental help there cannot be a man present in your life. Supremacist society says the standard of beauty that you must adhere too is reflected in how well you emulate European features. Supremacist society says, and this is the new wave (fuck them dudes all together come pour some of this cream in your coffee) Supremacist society says that after all this if you do by chance find a man, if you do by chance maneuver through all of the boobie traps and pitfalls well he’s not essential your existence so you don’t have to respect him I mean niggas aint shit right? Once youre tired of him supremacist society has a legal system that will force him to be the man you wanted him to be.

Roll the tape:

I am a firm believer that the Black family is essential to the survival and elevation of Black people. I am also a firm believer that both the black man and the Black woman suffer severely from depression, a lack of self-love. These two issues, more than any others make if nearly impossible to give or receive love in its purest form. Equally yoked is a term people sling around in the black male female dynamic, but most of the time that I hear this terminology, I realize it’s being used out of context. Equally yoked isn’t about coming to the table with an equal amount of material goods. Equally yoked is a spiritual requirement. Equally yoked asks the questions, Do you want out of life as I want out of life? Will you sacrifice for my happiness as I will sacrifice for yours? Can you love without condition as I will love you with out condition? No car, No house, No loubotin, no false macho bravado will ever replace the feeling of being loved. No external application will ever fix an internal complication. Where we go from here as a community will be our legacy, will you allow a institution to brand your legacy or will you accept responsibility and begin ReBranding your blackness today?